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Monday, 06 June 2011 14:52

Virag R Dhulia, a software professional, has been a prominent men's rights activist. He has been engaged in creating awareness about the abuse of men and their families through anti-male and gender biased laws like Section 498A, Domestic Violence Act etc. He has been instrumental in networking with fellow men's rights activist both across India and abroad and has played key roles in organizing events to create awareness about abuse of men by the society. 

He maintains a couple of blogs and websites and a personal website of his own which contain articles written by him about issues faced by Indian men in particular and men in general. He has authored more than 300 articles which are published on his blogs and websites. His opinions and views on anti-male and gender biased laws and anti-male sentiments of judiciary has appeared in all leading dailies like the Times of India, DNA, Deccan Herald, Hindustan Times, Navbharat Times, and more such newspapers multiple times. He has also appeared in a couple of TV Shows speaking about the disastrous effects of ill-conceived laws on married men and their families.

He is also extensively involved in training new members to further the cause of men's rights in the society. He has written numerous letters / petitions / RTI applications to various state and central government departments on rationalization of gender-biased laws in favor of men. He has been a key driving player in all the three Men's Rights National Conferences in India. He was the keynote speaker in the second conference held in 2009 and one of the key organizers in the third conference held in 2010. He has played a key role in the drafting of a research report titled, "The Perils of Section 498A - A report on changes required". The report was prepared on request by the Karnataka Law Commission.

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Last Updated on Monday, 20 June 2011 12:30
 
A letter of gratitude to my wife PDF Print E-mail
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Tuesday, 05 January 2010 22:37

Continued from "The Injustice Continues"

A letter to my ...... half (Will fill in the blanks with the right word at the end and readers will justify it.)

Thanks a lot my dear wife. She is a wonderful person, an awesome teacher, who used to give tuitions to school students before marriage, at least which was what I was told. And I used to think, what is it that she used to teach to her students. Now that I have learnt so many things from her, I cannot help but share my experience with you as you all have been so kind enough to tolerate the nonsense I have been blurting out so far.

My beloved wife taught me that life is not a bed of roses and it has thorns in it as well. Not only that, she proved that she was correct as I am now actually living with those thorns. Thanks a lot my dear for teaching the real meaning of life and being so brutally real to me. I was such a big fool, having married to you I was trying hard to convince myself that I have got a good and a matured life partner until you taught me that life can have some serious and unforeseen problems as well. And such deep is your love for me that you teach me everything with a real and a practical example. Thanks a lot dear for teaching me that women can be so bad that they tend to ruin the whole family. Thanks a lot dear for teaching me that when a woman (read a married woman) lies about her husband and her mother-in-law, adding spice to the dish with her crocodile tears (actually even a crocodile might shed actual tears knowing you are being described with the crocodile as an allegory), the society and the law happily believes her and starts consoling her and hangs the innocent husbands life on the gallows. Had you not filed a false dowry harassment case on me (again to teach me a lesson as I refused to desert my aged and dependent parents as per your wish) I would never learned that this case can be filed by any married woman and can also be filed even if dowry has never ever been taken or demanded, and this case can be used as threat weapon, a fear psychosis tool and a legal channel to extort money, so thanks for this knowledge as well dear.

Till so far I had just seen the jail in movies, but thanks to your false case and thanks to the stupid Indian Legal System (still living in the dark ages), I had a first hand experience of jail. Till so far I had thought only bad people used to stay in jail, but surprisingly enough I found many good people there and also got unexpected help from them, so dear, thanks for this enlightenment. I will indebted to you my darling for this. Thanks to you, I got to know who are my real friends and who are not, for when you made my parents' and my life a hell, I had my friends to fall back upon and they stood beside me like a pillar. My innumerable thanks go to Anju Masi, Pradeep Masa, Ashok Uncle, Ravi, Bharat, Priyanka, Subhadra, and Harshini and how can I not mention Shankar Uncle (Subhadra's father). And my special thanks go to Ishwinder; your mental support means a lot to me brother. You remember you used to tell me, "Darling, I will always be there for you." I laugh it off today, for when you chose to walk out of my life, none of the above people told me, "Virag, I will be there for you." They just came and stood there and did their bit, whatever they could. So once again thanks to you I could know so many nice people. And my real and sincere thanks go to these people. And my dear wife, you very well know the smell (read odor) of the thanks I have been showering on you hitherto and shall continue to shower henceforth.

Last Updated on Saturday, 01 May 2010 12:46
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The injustice continues PDF Print E-mail
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Tuesday, 05 January 2010 22:30

Continued from "The Onset of Injustice"

The SHO starts yelling at Virag and his parents. They feel so helpless and suffocated. They are eagerly waiting for their lawyer and relatives to turn up. Meanwhile Virag has already informed Shankar uncle about the police and all. He comforts him saying, "Face the situation bravely. You shall come out of it."

SHO: "What do you think of yourself, you are harassing your wife for dowry?"

Virag: "No Sir, this is not true. There is no dowry system in our community. And we have not demanded a single paisa from them. We have kept her very well. She has left on her own as she hates my parents and wants me to abandon them.

SHO: "Do not speak in front of me, go out and sit there."

Dejected and tense, Virag comes out and sits on the bench. His parents are equally tensed. Just then his lawyers and relatives arrive. They feel a little better. Rishi comforts him, not to worry. He and his colleague talk to the police and they demand 12 lacs to settle the case.

Last Updated on Tuesday, 25 May 2010 13:32
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The onset of injustice PDF Print E-mail
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Tuesday, 05 January 2010 21:35

Continued from "The founding stone of the Masculist"

Manager: “So how do you find the job here?”

Virag: "It is good. The atmosphere is nice, but at times I do feel that the challenge could have been more."

Manager: "Hmmm, how do you feel so? The product and the domain, both are so vast, there is so much of learning involved. You can in fact, pick up a module and master it so that any one comes to me with an issue in that module, I can say the module man is Virag."

Virag: "Yeah I do agree that there is indeed a lot of learning involved, and as you see since the past almost one year I have been working on this particular module and know it in and out. But what I feel that product knowledge is not an issue, it all depends on my zeal to learn, but I feel the lack of chance to learn the domain knowledge and business processes."

Manager: "OK, I will keep this in mind and if anything comes up, shall keep you in loop."

Virag: "OK Thanks."

Last Updated on Tuesday, 25 May 2010 13:31
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The founding stone of the masculist PDF Print E-mail
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Monday, 04 January 2010 23:09

This article entails the INCIDENT in my life that laid the foundation of the transformation which has culminated in this website.

Wow! "Old is Gold". As has been righteously said, "It takes years to make and a moment to break". Yes folks, it took years of my parents' training, sacrifices, coaxing, scolding and bickering to ensure I not only get the excellent grades in school, but also get the best lessons of my life. It took 13 yrs of my academic struggle to ensure that I not only get admitted to one of the top notch engineering colleges, but also get the best stream available (Computer Sc. & Engineering). Thereafter it took four years of continuous struggle and the agonies and ecstasies of hostel life, new friends, new hardships, new survival strategies to make myself capable of facing the world, accept unforeseen challenges and finally it was the first day of my final year when the result of a 4 hr interview was my first appointment letter in an MNC with a "decent" salary. Then it took me 19 months before I could move to Bangalore, the dream city of any software engineer, and being the only son of my parents, I had nurtured a small wish all these years to own a house of my own, where my parents can stay and retire in peace.

A handsome salary (credible enough to get me the required housing loan) and our savings ensured we will be getting a home of our own. Six months hence witnessed tireless efforts by my mom, assisted by me to see that small dream of mine materializing. Yes it took all these years of dedication, patience and efforts to reach this stage. And then the final task for my parents, getting their only son married. An alliance came and things started to fall in place and in a year more I was a married family man. How the transition from a boy to man took place was hard to notice but easy to realize, with the rising pressure of new responsibilities.

 

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